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Monday, August 3, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
Tales from online dating H-E-double hockeysticks!
At what point or age do you get to, do you realize ahead of time what you are doing is not beneficial to your quality of life? At what point do you say enough is enough? How much do i have to be a glutton for punishment in the bad date hall of fame?
For example, I continually go on dates where I know ahead of time even without meeting them, that its like 90% of a sure chance that this someone that is most likely not my type. I always have this stupid little voice go "What if he is better looking in person?" or "What if he turns out to be your prince charming?" or "Maybe he can talk better then he spells?"....ha ha uh ha.
I could say that I know the chances of me finding my Mr. Right or Mr. Right now on the Internet are slim to none. But then again, I look at Derek and Miss Vikki Leigh!!! They are smitten! So I guess I am not giving up completely.
I mean even though there was the "black midget" who practically stalked me! (who after one date would have married me, and I knew the second I saw him it would never work, learned my lesson on meeting someone with no pics!) and the "19 pet guy". Yes folks 19 pets! Um that's kind of a deal breaker!!! WOW! 19 pets why oh why???
Then there was the guy who on the third (yes i said third!!!) date, got quite inebriated and left me downtown at midnight alone, after biting my shoulder (not a love bite either) and dumping an entire glass of water on me! He came back to pick me up, after I'd already given up on him, and found my friends to hang out with and get a ride home.Then after getting his friend a bartender to give us a ride home, he farted on me, poured water on me and smacked me on the butt. Needless to say, there was not so much as a phone call let alone a fourth date! I "broke" it off with him through my my space "status!" Never so quickly have I raced to change the "in a relationship" to "single!" Hey, if you met on the net, you can break up on the net!!And to think that was a business man!!! In the business of not knowing how to treat a woman!
Then there was the "metro-sexual" who had a pot of melon flavoured lip gloss. If a guys lips taste better then mine...Houston we've got a problem! Need I say more?
I really won't go on with the risk of just looking like a floozy. Ha....I've had so many bad "one dates" I should have given up long ago! What is the point of writing this other then to give myself and a few others some giggles at my dating catastrophes? :-)I keep swearing I should write a book. I was originally thinking "How to Not meet the Man of your dreams on the Internet!" and have been hoping that I should change the title to "How TO meet the man of your dreams on the Internet!" I've been on just about every dating website there is. I know which ones are cool, and I know how to write the proper profile.
I had a profile on a certain site, that I thought, u know I'm going to make some changes, and see what happens. Apparently I can write a well-written profile (well i had some cute new pics too) because in about 4 hours time I got 18 new emails! So all that to say its fun, having the pick of all the online shopping for a husband ha ha ha. But in all of those emails, maybe two out of eighteen were men that even piqued my interest. And of course wouldn't ya know as my luck would have it, those two lived over two hours away!!! I'm still not giving up. I keep thinking that if God wanted me to meet someone maybe he would just pop them into my life. But then a few weeks of me spending Friday nights at the gym or sitting in a chair reading a Barnes and Noble go by, and I get restless. Which, there is nothing wrong with those things, just enough to put a cute single girl into a mild depression!!!!
Remember the Seinfeld episode where Elaine said the guy wasn't spongeworthy? Well I too have had that epiphany. Only mine wasn't in forms of birth control lol. Mine was "he wasn't worth my Bare Minerals...":-)
For example, I continually go on dates where I know ahead of time even without meeting them, that its like 90% of a sure chance that this someone that is most likely not my type. I always have this stupid little voice go "What if he is better looking in person?" or "What if he turns out to be your prince charming?" or "Maybe he can talk better then he spells?"....ha ha uh ha.
I could say that I know the chances of me finding my Mr. Right or Mr. Right now on the Internet are slim to none. But then again, I look at Derek and Miss Vikki Leigh!!! They are smitten! So I guess I am not giving up completely.
I mean even though there was the "black midget" who practically stalked me! (who after one date would have married me, and I knew the second I saw him it would never work, learned my lesson on meeting someone with no pics!) and the "19 pet guy". Yes folks 19 pets! Um that's kind of a deal breaker!!! WOW! 19 pets why oh why???
Then there was the guy who on the third (yes i said third!!!) date, got quite inebriated and left me downtown at midnight alone, after biting my shoulder (not a love bite either) and dumping an entire glass of water on me! He came back to pick me up, after I'd already given up on him, and found my friends to hang out with and get a ride home.Then after getting his friend a bartender to give us a ride home, he farted on me, poured water on me and smacked me on the butt. Needless to say, there was not so much as a phone call let alone a fourth date! I "broke" it off with him through my my space "status!" Never so quickly have I raced to change the "in a relationship" to "single!" Hey, if you met on the net, you can break up on the net!!And to think that was a business man!!! In the business of not knowing how to treat a woman!
Then there was the "metro-sexual" who had a pot of melon flavoured lip gloss. If a guys lips taste better then mine...Houston we've got a problem! Need I say more?
I really won't go on with the risk of just looking like a floozy. Ha....I've had so many bad "one dates" I should have given up long ago! What is the point of writing this other then to give myself and a few others some giggles at my dating catastrophes? :-)I keep swearing I should write a book. I was originally thinking "How to Not meet the Man of your dreams on the Internet!" and have been hoping that I should change the title to "How TO meet the man of your dreams on the Internet!" I've been on just about every dating website there is. I know which ones are cool, and I know how to write the proper profile.
I had a profile on a certain site, that I thought, u know I'm going to make some changes, and see what happens. Apparently I can write a well-written profile (well i had some cute new pics too) because in about 4 hours time I got 18 new emails! So all that to say its fun, having the pick of all the online shopping for a husband ha ha ha. But in all of those emails, maybe two out of eighteen were men that even piqued my interest. And of course wouldn't ya know as my luck would have it, those two lived over two hours away!!! I'm still not giving up. I keep thinking that if God wanted me to meet someone maybe he would just pop them into my life. But then a few weeks of me spending Friday nights at the gym or sitting in a chair reading a Barnes and Noble go by, and I get restless. Which, there is nothing wrong with those things, just enough to put a cute single girl into a mild depression!!!!
Remember the Seinfeld episode where Elaine said the guy wasn't spongeworthy? Well I too have had that epiphany. Only mine wasn't in forms of birth control lol. Mine was "he wasn't worth my Bare Minerals...":-)
To the single mom thinking of getting a puppy:
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
DON'T! Ive had 4 hermit crabs 4 or 5 fish, two hamsters, and a bird. All of which are now dead, no fault of mine. :-) I think. lol.... We tried a puppy 3 years ago, and couldn't handle it. Thought it was because it was a healer mix, and nipped at our heels all the time, but all puppies do that apparently.I now have two cats which I think I have had three years. I just got a puppy about a month ago...and lordy the worst thing I could have ever done! Most of my time is spent cleaning up after pets, breaking up brawls between them, keeping the puppy trained.....oh my lordy exhausting....with a new job its overwhelming! SAY NO TO A PUPPY!!! Its worse then a newborn!
Here's just a small list of things destroyed by ROXY :-)
Nintendo Wire
Phone charger wire
Cable Wire
(now all wires are covered by foam)
library book
3 pairs of my Victoria Secret $7 each underwear!!
my king mattress egg crate mattress topper, now has giant sized chunks in the middle, where I tried to "puzzle" the pieces back in after she bit them!
She's chewed through 2 leashes,
and I have 4 or 5 shirts or dresses that have holes from her teeth!!
and lots of flip flops and other lil things!
Chewed on the legs to my dining room table, which is less
then a year old!
Um OK...update, she chewed up the wire to a box fan,
peed on my ottoman, Chewed some Tupperware!!!
as of right now I'm typing ..board that has um about 20 keys chewed off k s hard to type!!!
RRRR I'm so over the puppy phase!
DON'T! Ive had 4 hermit crabs 4 or 5 fish, two hamsters, and a bird. All of which are now dead, no fault of mine. :-) I think. lol.... We tried a puppy 3 years ago, and couldn't handle it. Thought it was because it was a healer mix, and nipped at our heels all the time, but all puppies do that apparently.I now have two cats which I think I have had three years. I just got a puppy about a month ago...and lordy the worst thing I could have ever done! Most of my time is spent cleaning up after pets, breaking up brawls between them, keeping the puppy trained.....oh my lordy exhausting....with a new job its overwhelming! SAY NO TO A PUPPY!!! Its worse then a newborn!
Here's just a small list of things destroyed by ROXY :-)
Nintendo Wire
Phone charger wire
Cable Wire
(now all wires are covered by foam)
library book
3 pairs of my Victoria Secret $7 each underwear!!
my king mattress egg crate mattress topper, now has giant sized chunks in the middle, where I tried to "puzzle" the pieces back in after she bit them!
She's chewed through 2 leashes,
and I have 4 or 5 shirts or dresses that have holes from her teeth!!
and lots of flip flops and other lil things!
Chewed on the legs to my dining room table, which is less
then a year old!
Um OK...update, she chewed up the wire to a box fan,
peed on my ottoman, Chewed some Tupperware!!!
as of right now I'm typing ..board that has um about 20 keys chewed off k s hard to type!!!
RRRR I'm so over the puppy phase!
Blackberry Picking Y'all!
Originally posted on myspace Sunday, July 27, 2008
life....childhood memories Category: Life
Its funny how no matter busy or chaotic your life is, you can take part of something that just makes you stop and enjoy the moments of life. This something for me, was as simple as taking my boys to do something that I did growing up as a little girl in the hills of Northern California. Blackberry picking! We would go blackberry every summer, me my sister Becca, Sam, Cecily, Michael, Janine and sometimes Nico. Our moms would give us Tupperware containers and we would hike what felt like miles (could have been one, I have no clue now!) and go down to the little wooden bridge and pick till our fingers bled. It always seems like the juiciest plumpest ones, were growing just beyond reach, and If you were daring enough you would risk the skin of your legs and arms and hands getting jagged scratches from the thorns to reach the king size one of them all! We would have purple fingers, purple mouths and be as happy as could be. It was such a fun time...On the way back, which was harder will full containers, that would not as full but by the time we got home,we would play this little game. For some reason we would push the envelope of cussing too, it wasn't quite blatant...one kid would say "Shi" and the other one would giggle and say "it" and then another one would say "shit" and would would laugh....and we couldn't tell on each other for cussing, cause we all did it!So yesterday myself, my two boys and three next door neighbor girls took our puppy for a walk, and on the way back, we stopped at a park and found a huge blackberry patch. We after tasting them, decided we had to run home and get containers! We then ran home, and got Ziploc and picked and picked....the kids had so much fun. It was too cute, Sloane, the youngest of the group, said at least twice, the is the most fun I have ever had. :-) So after our fingers had bled, and our bags were full, we went home, and I baked the best blackberry cobbler I have ever had! I think it might have even been better then my mama's!! YUM! I also made homemade ice cream....so much for my diet....oh well life is too short to not enjoy free berries in your back yard!! Happy Pickin ya'all!
life....childhood memories Category: Life
Its funny how no matter busy or chaotic your life is, you can take part of something that just makes you stop and enjoy the moments of life. This something for me, was as simple as taking my boys to do something that I did growing up as a little girl in the hills of Northern California. Blackberry picking! We would go blackberry every summer, me my sister Becca, Sam, Cecily, Michael, Janine and sometimes Nico. Our moms would give us Tupperware containers and we would hike what felt like miles (could have been one, I have no clue now!) and go down to the little wooden bridge and pick till our fingers bled. It always seems like the juiciest plumpest ones, were growing just beyond reach, and If you were daring enough you would risk the skin of your legs and arms and hands getting jagged scratches from the thorns to reach the king size one of them all! We would have purple fingers, purple mouths and be as happy as could be. It was such a fun time...On the way back, which was harder will full containers, that would not as full but by the time we got home,we would play this little game. For some reason we would push the envelope of cussing too, it wasn't quite blatant...one kid would say "Shi" and the other one would giggle and say "it" and then another one would say "shit" and would would laugh....and we couldn't tell on each other for cussing, cause we all did it!So yesterday myself, my two boys and three next door neighbor girls took our puppy for a walk, and on the way back, we stopped at a park and found a huge blackberry patch. We after tasting them, decided we had to run home and get containers! We then ran home, and got Ziploc and picked and picked....the kids had so much fun. It was too cute, Sloane, the youngest of the group, said at least twice, the is the most fun I have ever had. :-) So after our fingers had bled, and our bags were full, we went home, and I baked the best blackberry cobbler I have ever had! I think it might have even been better then my mama's!! YUM! I also made homemade ice cream....so much for my diet....oh well life is too short to not enjoy free berries in your back yard!! Happy Pickin ya'all!
Don't worry be happy!
Originally posted on Myspace 9/27/08
Two weeks ago I went to a service at our church called Inversion; it's a younger 20-30's type group. I've been going to my church for two years and never gone, thinking it was not really for people who have had kids and been divorced. My friend Carrie talked me into it, and she wasn't able to make it that night, but I still went. I figured before I met Carrie I always sat by myself at church anyway, what's different about this one night? The service was good, nothing spectacular. But then the pastor kind of threw out a verse and immediately it felt like I got hit between the eyes and the tears started rolling! I got up this morning and decided to read the passage myself. And again the tears were rolling. I think I have probably read the passage many times but never really really delved into what God was saying. This point in my life it might as well have said "Julie I told you…."
Here it is: Matthew 6:23-27
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important that food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away food in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"
I know that we are more important than birds…but that whole thought! God knows whats in our bank account (or what's not in there ) he in knows if our fridge is bare or what bills are due. I kept saying I'm praying for patience and when talking to a friend last night, he pointed out that maybe it wasn't patience I was needing it was TRUST. I need to trust God that he knows the desires of my heart, how I just want to provide for my boys and be a good mom. It is hard to be a good calm peaceful mom when you are worried about where that next tank of gas is going to come from.
I am very excited about my new job. I kept praying (everyone around me has been praying) that I would find full time and I have! It's not just full time, it's more then I could have ever asked for! It's financially the best job I will have ever had, benefits after 30 days! I'm blessed! I can't say I trusted Him like I should have( I worried my pretty little head off until this morning!) but I do have a enormous amount of peace about my life in a way that I can't say I ever have before. And that is saying a lot, because these past few weeks I have been literally at the bottom of a barrel and I'm climbing out!!
Just wanted to share that with ya!
Two weeks ago I went to a service at our church called Inversion; it's a younger 20-30's type group. I've been going to my church for two years and never gone, thinking it was not really for people who have had kids and been divorced. My friend Carrie talked me into it, and she wasn't able to make it that night, but I still went. I figured before I met Carrie I always sat by myself at church anyway, what's different about this one night? The service was good, nothing spectacular. But then the pastor kind of threw out a verse and immediately it felt like I got hit between the eyes and the tears started rolling! I got up this morning and decided to read the passage myself. And again the tears were rolling. I think I have probably read the passage many times but never really really delved into what God was saying. This point in my life it might as well have said "Julie I told you…."
Here it is: Matthew 6:23-27
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important that food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away food in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"
I know that we are more important than birds…but that whole thought! God knows whats in our bank account (or what's not in there ) he in knows if our fridge is bare or what bills are due. I kept saying I'm praying for patience and when talking to a friend last night, he pointed out that maybe it wasn't patience I was needing it was TRUST. I need to trust God that he knows the desires of my heart, how I just want to provide for my boys and be a good mom. It is hard to be a good calm peaceful mom when you are worried about where that next tank of gas is going to come from.
I am very excited about my new job. I kept praying (everyone around me has been praying) that I would find full time and I have! It's not just full time, it's more then I could have ever asked for! It's financially the best job I will have ever had, benefits after 30 days! I'm blessed! I can't say I trusted Him like I should have( I worried my pretty little head off until this morning!) but I do have a enormous amount of peace about my life in a way that I can't say I ever have before. And that is saying a lot, because these past few weeks I have been literally at the bottom of a barrel and I'm climbing out!!
Just wanted to share that with ya!
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Single Motherhood
I am overwhelmed.
I am tired.
I am tired of folding laundry.
Tired of worried about how I am going to put gas in my car.
Single.
Uck.
Again.
Lonely.
but finding my place again.
I have a huge weight on my shoulders.When a girl is in a relationship there is a sense of security that you are taken care of. Knowing that you have a man who can help you when your car breaks down (or at least give you a ride) a man to back you up when someone is rude to you in public, or to just lift that heavy box, or fix the leaky sink. It was nice while it lasted. But now that I'm single it's almost like the rug of security got pulled out from under from me.I did it to myself but I know it was the right decision. I guess it's just going to take a while for me to build that sense of security back up. To feel comfortable in my own skin. It's still unnerving. To go from that security of knowing someone loves everything about you. To sleeping alone and not having that constant security of having someone who will be there when you need them.
What do I do when my car breaks down? When the lawn mower won't start? When my kids are at my wits end and I just want 5 minutes alone? I have been a single mom for 6 years, and I know I can do it again. I'm just not looking forward to the climb of it. I work out, I work, I take care of my boys, try to keep the house clean, and food in the fridge and I write. That's it that's my life in a nutshell. I need to add some fun in somewhere. Yoga and working out is fun for me and I have no plans to date anytime soon. The whole idea of dating right now literally churns my stomach. Obviously its way too soon, I just broke up with my bf like three weeks ago. So I guess for now its all about balance. I just wish It wasn't so hard to keep all the balls in the air. I'm tired of juggling. I just want to sit back for a little while and watch the show.
:-) for now, I am off to beddy bye and dreamy of my prince charming to sweep me off my feet. A mom can dream can't she?
Monday, July 6, 2009
Unleashing the Crazy!
So this morning I am listening to my favorite morning show on the way to work. Kid Kraddick! LOVE IT! They were discussing an interview with Katy Perry and her concert the night before. Apparently Katy asked a couple in the audience how long they had been dating. They said nine months. She said "ohhh has she unleashed the crazy on you yet?" and it cracked me up. It made me think about how every relationship you get to a point where the other person does something that may seem a little crazy. Either you still love them enough to brush it aside or you go "whoa, that is a red flag!" Well, unfortunately I keep dating types that have had many crazy moments, that I put up with. I am sure i unleashed a little crazy on him. He unleashed the crazy the second month we were dating (not to mention the fact that I had a girl WARN me about him) and I stayed 9 months! OMG! WHY??? Why do I have to learn things the hard way, I mean come on, really! I'm 31 going to be 32 in less then 3 weeks. So I went to therapy today, and its the first time I've seen my therapist since my divorce. It was reassuring to hear him say yes, my ex boyfriend could use some sort of professional help! I didn't spice any stories up, or manipulate them in a way to make myself to look better. I told him straight facts. Its funny how you need a professional to prove to you what you already knew. He said that he had a neurosis. A obsession with trying to control my life. It's funny because I should have known when I was Googling terms like "manipulative" and "controlling boyfriend. " There were red flags from the very beginning. Red flags that I brushed under the carpet because he was so affectionate, and could fix anything and would do anything for me. I kept weighing the good with the bad, and of course in his mind he was only doing the things he was doing because he loved me. Well in my mind, and in actuality he was simply controlling every aspect of my life that he could. He did not want me to have a life without him Myspace, Facebook, or Twitter account, he did not want me to have any male friends (only one who was married). I did as best I could to make him happy. Then there came a point where it seemed like no matter what I did he was worried that I would cheat on him. I could not handle the constant scrutiny over nothing! I did nothing! Never even glanced at another guy! One of the final straws was him calling me in the middle of the night to cuss me out for getting a Twitter account! Then calls me an hour later (after I just fell asleep, and I have to get up at 5 mind you!) to ask if an former employee (who has a girlfriend) Facebooked me again! I already told him he hadn't!
The next day I just had the sickest feeling. I couldn't shake it. I started realizing that the crazy outweighed the good. I was reading a fellow blogger Alaina's page, and her line about being a single mom not having time to "dick around" as she put it, made me go, you know what my kids are involved and he's going to end up hurting us all even more if I don't end it now!
After I broke up with him my bestie guy friend Derek told me that with his newlywed wife, he knew she was the one, because he never doubted not even once. I want to have that. But for right now I just picked up a second job, since I am not going to be dating for a long time soon, I might as well pay off my debt!!! I'm gonna unleash the crazy on paying down my student loans!
The next day I just had the sickest feeling. I couldn't shake it. I started realizing that the crazy outweighed the good. I was reading a fellow blogger Alaina's page, and her line about being a single mom not having time to "dick around" as she put it, made me go, you know what my kids are involved and he's going to end up hurting us all even more if I don't end it now!
After I broke up with him my bestie guy friend Derek told me that with his newlywed wife, he knew she was the one, because he never doubted not even once. I want to have that. But for right now I just picked up a second job, since I am not going to be dating for a long time soon, I might as well pay off my debt!!! I'm gonna unleash the crazy on paying down my student loans!
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Cuz breaking up is hard to do oo.
In a few minutes I'm going to have to tell my boys that I broke up with my boyfriend. This wouldn't be such a big deal if he didn't have kids that were their ages that they have played with every other weekend for the past 9 months. I'm not looking forward to it. I just pray that it will make them be stronger boys, tougher and that the sorrow won't last too long. I've cried enough the past 3 days, its enough to last me a lifetime. I loved that man very much. It is so hard when you know you are making the right choice, but that your "choice" is something that is going to hurt your little ones, and his little ones. It was not an easy decision, but one that took me a lot of nerve and strength. I think the time alone with my boys will be a good growing/bonding experience for us/them but the initial shock will be very difficult. Or at least I am planning it to be that way if they react better then I think, it will be so much easier.
When you make a decision that is hard and painful, but there is a drive inside you that says, this is the right thing to don't back down now, you know in your heart of hearts it was the right thing to do! No matter how good he treated me or how many wonderful things he did for me, bottom line it was not a healthy relationship and I only want what is best for me and my boys. He has since put the icing on the cake as far as solidifying in my mind I made the right decision. Lord help me!
When you make a decision that is hard and painful, but there is a drive inside you that says, this is the right thing to don't back down now, you know in your heart of hearts it was the right thing to do! No matter how good he treated me or how many wonderful things he did for me, bottom line it was not a healthy relationship and I only want what is best for me and my boys. He has since put the icing on the cake as far as solidifying in my mind I made the right decision. Lord help me!
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