Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Silver linings and the power of words

So I've been thinking a lot about the power of words. More so the power of someone's impact on you with a simple phrase.
I've become a part of the Facebook group that is literally one of the best thing that is ever happened to me. All of a sudden I'm surrounded by people that are picking out the best qualities in me an pointing them out to me when I'm never seen them before. People I don't even know are telling me good things about myself.
Even though I'm at one of my highest weights,I feel amazing. 
I feel loved even from strangers far away.
I can't even remember what life was like before them -only I know it wasn't this good. Think about how when someone gave you a compliment that really meant a lot.  How you were kind of flying high for a while and it just made you feel really good. What if we all did that all the time to our kids? To our spouses? To our parents?
What if instead of griping about the bad drivers and griping about expensive GMO laden foods what if we just talk about what we're grateful for? 
How about every time you see someone you give them a complement in person or on Facebook! I know this world would be a better place if everyone spewed out complements faster then you can complain. I have friends that I consider Debbie downers I have  hidden them from my feed. I choose to surround myself with positive, happy people 
On the outside I may look like I have it all together, but I assure you I don't. I could point out all of my negative flaws but there's no reason to. I'm choosing to only see the good in me and my life.
You were put on this earth to make someone else's life better!
So how are you doing with that and what have you done lately?
Pick out the best qualities in the people that you love and tell them all the time every day- pick different things!!! You know what? You might pick something that they never saw and you could change the entire way they think about themselves. Power of positivity is life changing!!! I've had people ask me how did I get through my son being sick ( he's had a heart transplant and cancer twice and multiple bouts of pneumonia) how did I handle that? They say things like " I could never be as strong as you!
I chose to not let it define me to not let it ruin my outlook on life. I chose to be grateful for my child able to be in one of the top 10 hospitals in the USA! 
We have cardiologists that celebrate birthdays with us! Like literally walked into the doctors office with the candles on cupcakes! 
Sure I could be bitter about the fact that my ex-husband has been remarried for eight years and I have barely come close to marriage.
I could be bitter about the fact that I can barely pay my bills.  But I have a good job and coworkers that love me and hug me daily. True story. I have two amazing boys who love me even though we don't always get along. Who still hug me and humor me.
I have an ex-husband has paid child support on time every month for the last 10 years. That's more than most single moms get. I also get along really well with his wife and I know for a fact that's rare these days. 
I have family that loves me even though only one of them live in Tennessee. I choose to see the silver lining I believe that every crisis has a silver lining. You may not see it at the time but later we can look back and feel blessed. So try spouting out complements, pick the positive qualities-see the good be the good, and love with your whole heart!! You will see your life change. I promise.